I like to think that’s not me. I had lunch with my friend Laura, who has been married about the same amount of time as I have and has a stepdaughter. I think she’s going to start a step parent club. She has a friend who is a new step parent. Anyway we were discussing the role of stepmother and the fact that we end up being the nag. Is it because we’re women, because all teenagers (and pre-teens) just don’t know how to clean up after themselves, or because we’re both type A personalities? Is it a Y chromosome thing that men just don’t see the crap all over the counters and tables and any other flat surface in the house? Will we go through this when our own children are 12? Now this is not to say that Thomas doesn’t nag the boys as well. Sometimes we get on them in stereo. Maybe we should whisper, they might listen harder. What does it take to get a teenager to put the dishes in the dishwasher, put their junk in their room, and take care of their animal? Are they just so unaware of what they are doing? Or do they just not give a damn? When we bring it up all we get is “oh, sorry.” I am so sick of ‘sorry’ I can’t even tell you. We got home from work on Monday and the boys had trashed the kitchen. Since they’d gone back to their mom’s house we couldn’t say anything to them. Thomas took pictures. WHAT DOES IT TAKE????
09/01/06 Mean Cruel Evil Ugly Step Mother September 1, 2006